Today my husband and I celebrate our third anniversary, and this morning, my husband, who is on a business trip, sent me a text message that said, “I lasted three years, do I get a prize like they do on Survivor?” Of course he was just joking with me, but what he said does have a ring of truth to it. With so many reality shows, television shows and movies emphasizing short relationships and skimming over or even joking about the value of lasting relationships, it can be difficult for couples in the real world to know what to honestly expect once those rings are on their fingers.
Unlike reality shows, couples do not earn prizes for how long they last. But there are gifts that couples receive along the way. I admit, my husband and I are still very early in our marriage, but each year that passes helps us to understand the words from our vows more and more. Unlike in a reality show, we can’t edit out the “bad” times, and sometimes the “good” times may not be given as much time as they should, but that’s what makes it interesting – and real.
I’d like to ask any married readers out there how long you have been married and what you have learned about the reality of marriage so far – please share!